I’m a 22 year old boy, recently my girlfriend dumped me saying that she is ashamed of me because I’m always broke and do not provide for her needs. She says that she cannot continue dating a broke guy because her friends mock her and tell her that she does not deserve to suffer the way she is suffering with me. I have been trying to make ends meet but it has not been easy. Since I finished school 2 years ago I have been doing peace works but they are not enough to meet my needs and that of my family. I live with my mother only since my dad left us for another woman when I was 2 year old. I do not want to continue being a burden to my mother that is why I feel like taking my life would be a solution to all this stress and depression that I’m going through. I feel worthless and I think that no girl would want to associate with me.
Dear anonymous, in life we go through different things some good some bad. But in all that we strive to be strong and keep moving. Getting dumped by your girlfriend can be hard and hurtful but that is not the end of the world. You still have your whole future to chase. It might be hard for you right now but that does not mean it will always be bad. Your mother who has been there for you all this time loves you and hopes for a day when your dreams will be accomplished. Your girlfriend may have left you but your mother will always support you and that is a ray of hope for you to hold on to. You can also call drug and substance toll free line 6600 for counseling and help, reach out to close friend to explain the situation and or contact a spiritual leader or someone else in your faith community.
Please note that Suicidal thinking doesn’t get better on its own — so get help.
If your loved one shows signs of mental illness, have an open and honest discussion with him or her about your concerns. You may not be able to force someone to get professional care, but you can offer encouragement and support. You can also help your loved one find a qualified mental health professional and make an appointment. You may even be able to go along to the appointment.
If your loved one has done self-harm or is considering doing so, take the person to the hospital or call for emergency help.
You can get further information on mental health at your nearest youth friendly health facility or any health facility that provides youth friendly health services, or calling Tithandizane National Helpline’s toll free number 6600 or visiting YONECO’s youth drop-in centers.
